I was walking through town this afternoon and I saw a couple of young lads, maybe 12 years old. One was guiding the other with a hand on the back of his neck. As I got nearer I realised that one of the lads had additional needs and the hand on his neck was supportive for him. It was quite heartwarming, watching the way one lad was supporting the other as they navigated the busy High Street. Moving as one. It was a momentary snapshot of someone else’s life, and it made me smile.
The two boys reminded me of my own kids when they were younger and the support they gave each other. The times when the youngest (as a toddler) translated his brother’s sign language, when he defended him against bullies and when he could work out what was bothering his brother. Usually when adults couldn’t figure it out!
Many years ago I used to run a preschool group for little children with additional needs. I met some amazing kids and some equally amazing parents and some fantastic siblings. I’m not trying to suggest that life is always lovely and easy. It is downright tough sometimes – but it’s the connections that we make on the way through the awful times that keep us going and allow us to celebrate the good times. Help a friend through the tears and you will appreciate the laughter so much more.
Thinking about the two lads, my kids, and the families I’ve met over the years – has made me think about Joe in Downhill From Wednesday. About how people support each other; parents, siblings, friends. It made me think about the things that people with additional needs manage on a day to day basis. The challenges and successes. And the attempts and failures. The support from those who care about them that helps create the successes. The extra ‘above and beyond’ support that’s given from those who are paid low wages to care and support. People like Lindsey in Downhill. There are ‘Lindsey’s’, parents, siblings and friends in every town, working their socks off right now with a common, selfless, aim.
Here’s a big shout out to them! A big pat on the back and a high 5 to you all!
